I don’t have a topic for this week’s post in the way I usually do. Today’s post is less of a contemplation and more of a PSA.

Recently, I stumbled across one of the worst things I’ve seen on the Internet, and I have seen some truly horrendous things. But TikTok has destroyed my faith in humanity. One TikTok user in particular.

I found a TikTok user whose entire page is dedicated to invading the privacy of partners–boyfriends, girlfriends, husbands, wives. Her page clearly caters to women, but the “”””””””””””””advice”””””””””””””” she doles out can be used by anyone. Unfortunately.

Now you may be wondering what I mean when I say “invading the privacy of partners.” Do I mean asking invasive questions or demanding to see their phone? No. In the interest of not giving this nutcase any more oxygen than her hundreds of thousands of followers, I’m not going to attach a video of hers. (This is also why I’m not naming this user. She’s not going to get more eyes on her because of me, gosh darn it.) Instead, I’ll quote some of her stellar advice, like:

Listening to my man lie like I didn’t seduce him with bottled pheromones for access to his phone to set his texts to forward to me.

A woman who’s definitely violated a restraining order

If you want to see what they’re talking about: Download a texting app, change her number in your partner’s phone to your new text app number, block her number from his phone, carry on the conversation.

A woman whose pinned video says she was recently broken up with. gee, I wonder why?

Anyway, if I transcribe any more, I’ll be doing harm. The one playlist this woman has on her page is titled “PsychoTok,” where she collects this emotional abuse manual in one place, in case you thought maybe this was satire.

Speaking of emotional abuse, let’s get down to brass tacks, because that’s what this woman’s stock and trade is: giving people tips on how to better emotionally abuse and manipulate your partner. If you take any of this woman’s advice, if you hack your partner’s phone in manners I’m pretty sure law enforcement can’t even with a search warrant, if you’re using techniques identity thieves use to steal people’s credit card info on the person you are in a relationship with, you are abusing them. You don’t actually care about their fidelity or whose photos they’re liking on Instagram, you care about controlling them.

Not only is this abusive, it’s illegal. One article I found claims that people found guilty of hacking can get hit with up to 10 years in prison. And even if you avoid time in the clink, you better believe hacking a phone can be the subject of a lawsuit.

Lastly, even if you do manage to dodge any legal consequences, the tips this woman shares are relationship-ending breaches of trust. When your partner finds out–and they will find out–that’s it. No amount of apologies, justification, or begging will be able to save that relationship.

So, on the very small chance a regular viewer of the Alex Forrest Disciple happen on this article, let me tell you something. My parents look at each other’s phones all the time. My dad’s disclosed to me that my mom knows all his passwords, Do you know how she got them? Hacking? Demanding them in a screaming match? No, she has this info and vice versa because my parents have been married for 30 years. My parents share such personal details between the two of them because they trust each other, not because they think having their eyes on one another 24/7 is the only way to keep each other out of other people’s beds.

So, let me ask you, hypothetical follower of the Lunatic: is constant paranoia, possibly going to jail or getting the pants sued off of you, and dropping a nuke on your relationship and rightfully being branded as “f*cking insane” for the rest of your days worth finding out what your partner is saying in “The Boys” group chat? Especially when it’s entirely possible you do this highly illegal breach of privacy and find something incriminating? And especially when you can get the same info from your partner with no arm-twisting or sneaking around by building trust, communicating with them, and being as open a book as you want your partner to be?

The choice is yours.